Why do we love? What brings us together? How to heal ethnic hatred?
According to my guest, the answer to all these questions lies in the human desire to grow ourselves through connecting with others.
Arthur Aron is a psychologist who studies human bonding in all its forms. A pioneer in the field, he has studied topics from connecting with strangers to maintaining romance in life-long marriages. And many of his findings are ultimately hopeful.
In this conversation, we discuss topics such as:
(4:30) Why we love
(12:50) Tools to cultivate love
(24:30) Friendships with the ethnic "other”
(31:30) Are we naturally xenophobic?
MENTIONS
Names: Elaine Aron, Helen Fisher, Stephen Wright
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